I was finally-and truly-aware of all the toxicity that existed my gay narcissistic relationship, and how fortunate I was to be free and moving on with my life. They weren’t even blog posts at the time-they were spiritual mantras, and their words helped move me forward-at a minuscule, glacial speed in the beginning-into a state of profound realization. But these three stand out because of how much I read them during the fall of 2018. I still have a folder labeled “Narcissism” in my Safari browser’s Favorites, neatly organized into a multitude of subfolders sorted by different sources. I also found this writing from Natasha Adamo on her then-branded Post Male Syndrome blog-“ Is My Ex Happy In His New Relationship?”Īnd I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention Savannah Grey’s blog post, “ Narcissists and Betrayal,” from her Esteemology website.

It didn’t take long for me to find the essay from the Little Shaman titled, “ What Happens When a Narcissist Discards You?” How can someone easily replace one person with another? In the early days of my own gay toxic relationship’s end, as I sorted through the proverbial wreckage, I posed to Google many variations of this one question: If you’re reading this, then you can surmise that this interest is born out of personal experience.

The concept of the “discard” phase in a narcissistic relationship, only to be replaced very quickly by a new partner (commonly referred to as “new supply” by targets of narcissistic abuse) has been an interest of mine for two years.

The velvet rage by alan downs